An issue I've encountered is that if I call them on it, some people will swear up and down that [insert religion here] does not actually see things that way and then claim that there's some misunderstanding. Or even that it's not that we/they are 'better', just 'different.'

So I've turned it into a practical and personal thing that no one can dispute: living Orthodoxy made it hard for me to (completely and emotionally) respect all people and view everyone as part of the same whole, and I don't want to live that way. [I grew tired of trying to bend and change religion so that I can live according to my values while still being classically religious--I decided that I may as well just live by my values and seek out other people who share them for community and support.]