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If you are a person who has breasts AND roommates who presumably like breasts but are not your spouse, partner, bang buddy, or some combination of the aforementioned, do you walk around in your pajamas without a bra? Why/why not?

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I can't imagine wearing a bra with pajamas. If I'm being informal enough to be in PJs, I'm certainly in an informal enough situation to have no bra on. If I'm going to get dressed enough to put on a bra, I might as well put on other clothing, too. Otherwise, it's like getting half dressed then putting PJs back on.

Mind you, I wear a bra for a small handful of reasons, including that my breasts sweat underneath when it's hot and I want to absorb that, that they are sometimes sore and like the support, and that some clothing is designed around the idea that breasts will be upright and at attention. I don't consider having no bra to be an issue when it comes to the people I'm with.

I do not currently have guy roommates, but I have in the past, and I've had guys as overnight guest (you know, the kind who aren't in my bed as per relevance for this question) so I'm going to answer.

I don't mind walking around without a bra around guys, even when I am careful to wear a certain amount of minimal clothing (more than most of my friends, as it so happens). But so long as my clothing isn't see-through, I don't mind wearing no bra. But that's probably because I'm just a B.

I don't mind it per se, or I can get over it for convenience, but I worry that I'm sending out a message I'm not intending to send, which worries me more. If it's normal to walk around without a bra, though, then I guess it's not sending any messages.

Back in the day when I was living with housemates who were not sexual partners but were guys, I walked around in t-shirt/no bra all the time. I was at home, comfortable, and the guys I lived with were like brothers to me. Still are, in fact.

And I had a C cup then, which has subsequently grown to a DD cup after Little Bear was born.

I don't have my male roommate yet (next week I'm hoping) but I wouldn't even think twice about walking around sans brassiere. That said, I'm not much of a bra wearer anyway...and a bit of an exhibitionist to boot so I may falsely skew your poll ;)

Yes, I would. I don't think men wear cups to hold their junk still just because their female roommates are not their partner, so why should I wear a bra, if I am more comfortable without one?

In one situation (not a roommate, just person staying in the same place) I worried that I was sending out a message of interest/flirtation. (If walking around sans bra in pajamas isn't standard--and I don't really know--, I'd think that doing so might be somewhat flirty.)

I think cups are a little different since men don't wear them all the time or wear them to be less alluring.

I think cups are a little different since men don't wear them all the time or wear them to be less alluring.

And that's the main problem I have: they shouldn't be different. Whether or not a man wears a cup is his own business. Likewise, whether or not a woman wears a bra is her own business. I am troubled by the assumption that a woman's dress is anyone's business but her own.

If a man around me believed I was being "alluring" by not wearing a bra in my own home, I would let him know his assumption was the issue, not my choice of clothing. I can guarantee that would be his attitude, if I commented on his junk flapping freely in his pants instead of being contained by a cup. :-)

I don't, because they are relatively large and I feel conspicuous with 'em swinging everywhere. I have ratty old sports bras that only continue to exist expressly for this purpose. They come off (and usually the pajamas, too) before bed, though.

i dont' have breasts. but i am a guy.. who presumably likes breasts. but i am a diff guy and not the part of the average guy per se.

still. i mean i might notice if my female roommate isn't wearing a bra. but after the initial thought, it'd be out of my mind, cause its nothing sexual or like provocative in my face or whatnot.

and what are PJs? like tshirt and shorts? or like... a night gown? or like... that classic button up type. i say be comfortable or whatnot. but what do i know :-p

In this case, PJs = some sort of pants + t-shirt or (and I think this matters more) tank top...sweatshirts are baggy enough that it's a non-issue in that case.

oh a tank top. i recently told my (female) friend that i find those thing (on women) sexy. cause she was wearing one, and we talk frank like that. and i like boobs. still... it shouldn't matter per se... cause its not just about what you wear, its also dependent on action. if you truly make an emphasis to flaunt or whatnot. or is that chauvinistic of a thought? you don't just randomly jump up and down or run in place, do you?

^I agree that tank tops are sexy, although I don't think it has anything to do with whether the person is wearing a bra or not (at least to me.) Actually I don't think not wearing a bra is sexy in the slightest, but I'm under the impression that popular opinion says otherwise. Or that it gives a certain message.

Mostly my actions are extreme sports like walking to the bathroom (my apartment is weird and you have to walk through the living room and the kitchen to get to the bathroom) or making breakfast or opening the front gate to let my roommate back in if they forgot their key. I don't think I would *want* to jump up and down sans support anyway. But maybe that's too much info.

haha you're talking to the wrong person to think "too much info" is... too much info :-p i'm more open here than i should be :-p

i guess if they start to stare at you in a mnner thats uncomfortable.. tell them and/or switch it up... from tank top to tshirt to sweater to full on baggy body suit :-p

true true. And I don't think boobies are the sort of TMI that grosses anyone out anyway.

I guess I'm just over-worried about what's appropriate. Just like with everything else, including leaving dirty dishes in the sink :P

yea it happens. i guess i dont have the boobs problems per se. i've lived with just guy roommates. and on the occasion my roommates' girlfriend might come by and/or stay the night. but i dont really look at their boobs. and i dont think they are really care about what i think, bral-ess or not.

but yea dirty dishes = clean them :-p ... the amount of time they stay dirty varies with person to person. i use to wash it after i had my dinner. but then sometimes i'd wash them the following morning or just following evening. my roommate's schedule of washing dishes varied. but usually, i could tell him to wash his crap, and he'd do it. no harm no foul per se.

and its like 1am. so you're on my side of th eworld... so.. goto bed, lady. but tell me... are you wearing a bra? ;-) wink joking

Right back atcha with the go to bed business!

i did :-p

and i like boobies... so much that i thought abuot growing my own... :-p

I recommend just enjoying other people's. Here, enjoy a picture I saw recently in very large jpg glory:

is that lindsey lohan? cause her freckles bother me haha... and yet i like boobies, so its a give and take. but then she's a crackhead or something, so thats a minus... but she has two boobies... just the right amount for my preferences. so obviously i'm torn :-p

Yes it is. I think freckles are cute. Your loss :P

Rumor mills and paparazzi photos suggest that she has cleaned up a lot and is in a serious relationship with a woman. Crazed internet fangurls attribute the former to the latter.

oh yea i remember reading that.. with a DJ girl?. : shrug. dont care per se, guy girl, whatever makes her happy i guess..

and some freckles are cool, but she has like all over her body. there was one pic that seemed cool, but then i noticed the mass of freckles, and itsl ike shes got chickn pox or something.

Yeah, a DJ girl. It caught my attention 'cause apparently it's never happened before, a mainstream young actress being openly-ish gay in Hollywood, so people are analyzing and obsessing and whatnot. I actually had no idea who Lindsay Lohan was until like two weeks ago, though I kinda like her now. Also people make amusing LOLpics of her and Sam (her gf.)

yea i watch a lot of movies sometimes. so i am semi-familar with names or faces that are kinda popular nowadays. except tv shows... i dont really watch tv that much anymore. so like mtv shows or anyting thats more hip pop culture, i'm a bit off with. not that i care really, but i'm simply not hip to the now fully.

but yea. i dont know if its the 'first time' a mainstream actress is like this. i think its cause she was so popular and like "hot" in the paparazzi hollywood rumour mill circle thing that makes this seem more than it really is. like when ellen came out, people didnt care per se.. but like lots of guys dig lohan... and so when this news appears its like more popular hhaa

i dont know whati 'm saying. its late and my sleep is off. so i'm babbling. lolpics are funny kinda. but like one person commented sometiems the grammar and bad spelling is hard to digest to be funny.

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