A postcard from my livejournal vacation
Jan. 29th, 2005 09:11 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
balmofgileadI'm really angry, and I just have to get this out somewhere.
After vowing to avoid my standard internet timewasters (and blocking them using a HOSTS file), I ended up browsing a bulletin board. An Orthodox Jewish one, as it were.
There's a post from someone who has been a teacher for 15 years. She asks for suggestions on how she should help female students who inform her that they are being "visited" at night by their fathers, or molested by their male teachers, to get the fathers/teachers to back away. Yes, that's right, because these men are just letting their 'evil inclination' get the better of them, but that doesn't mean they're bad. (Apparently this has happened several times over the years.)
I don't ever post on that bulletin board. I really have no desire to engage in discussion with these people, and frankly, if they want to live their lives by some very strange laws that I may not agree with, that's fine with me.
I had to post, to say FOR SHAME in the biggest, blackest letters you can use on that forum, for suggesting that a girl being abused by her father should continue to respect him and just attempt to get him to come to his senses. That it is incumbent upon her, especially as an authority figure, to actually do something. A few people had asked why she hadn't gone to child protective services, but no one had scolded her, and I felt it was necessary.
She had the nerve to post back that the father would probably then be separated from the family, and wasn't it better to deal with this than to grow up with no father at all? Holy crap. Now, I may not be the paragon of virtue to these people, but I grew up without a father, and I think I came out okay if I do say so myself. Certainly healthier than children who have been abused. You can't even compare growing up without a father to growing up with a father who abuses. One of them's unfortunate and a little difficult, the other one causes irreparable psychological damage. The only person I ever knew who committed suicide had been molested by her father as a teenager. Thirty years later, she still couldn't deal with it, and she decided to end her life.
Are people fucking crazy?
After vowing to avoid my standard internet timewasters (and blocking them using a HOSTS file), I ended up browsing a bulletin board. An Orthodox Jewish one, as it were.
There's a post from someone who has been a teacher for 15 years. She asks for suggestions on how she should help female students who inform her that they are being "visited" at night by their fathers, or molested by their male teachers, to get the fathers/teachers to back away. Yes, that's right, because these men are just letting their 'evil inclination' get the better of them, but that doesn't mean they're bad. (Apparently this has happened several times over the years.)
I don't ever post on that bulletin board. I really have no desire to engage in discussion with these people, and frankly, if they want to live their lives by some very strange laws that I may not agree with, that's fine with me.
I had to post, to say FOR SHAME in the biggest, blackest letters you can use on that forum, for suggesting that a girl being abused by her father should continue to respect him and just attempt to get him to come to his senses. That it is incumbent upon her, especially as an authority figure, to actually do something. A few people had asked why she hadn't gone to child protective services, but no one had scolded her, and I felt it was necessary.
She had the nerve to post back that the father would probably then be separated from the family, and wasn't it better to deal with this than to grow up with no father at all? Holy crap. Now, I may not be the paragon of virtue to these people, but I grew up without a father, and I think I came out okay if I do say so myself. Certainly healthier than children who have been abused. You can't even compare growing up without a father to growing up with a father who abuses. One of them's unfortunate and a little difficult, the other one causes irreparable psychological damage. The only person I ever knew who committed suicide had been molested by her father as a teenager. Thirty years later, she still couldn't deal with it, and she decided to end her life.
Are people fucking crazy?
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