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This is the trajectory of my life:

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Can we please take a moment to appreciate this picture? (It's funny how much better If These Walls Could Talk 2 is than If These Walls Could Talk 1, which is horridly depressing.)

I don't usually enjoy the butch-femme thing, but I loved this segment of that movie...maybe because Michelle Williams' character doesn't really play into that culture.
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I remember popping a cherry tomato into my mouth. We were in my father's hospital room celebrating my 2nd birthday.

I also remember his funeral a week later.

I remember bits and bobs of other standout things that happened in the next few years: the cicada infestation, live lobsters on a kitchen floor before my friend's dad cooked them, finding baby turtles in the grass at a park, pushing toys through that small space under the railing of our balcony and down sixteen stories to the street (whoops), breaking a telephone cord in the store and my mother screaming about it, the first day of nursery school...but I can't put them in chronological order quite so well.
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Excerpts from a Dog's Diary..... Read more... )


Excerpts from a Cat 's Diary ..... Read more... )
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People who have experience with this:

do you have a favorite US road atlas?  I think I'm going to go for comb-bound and not-tiny, because any time I'm using it I'll have a car, so it's not like being light and small is a benefit.
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Most brilliant solution to hoarding, ever:
"All of the computers on Ebay are mine. In fact, everything on Ebay is already mine. All of those things are just in long term storage that I pay nothing for. Storage is free.

When I want to take something out of storage, I just pay the for the storage costs for that particular thing up to that point, plus a nominal shipping fee, and my things are delivered to me so I can use them. When I am done with them, I return them to storage via Craigslist or Ebay, and I am given a fee as compensation for freeing up the storage facilities resources.

This is also the case with all of my stuff that Amazon and Walmart are holding for me. I have antiques, priceless art, cars, estates, and jewels beyond the dreams of avarice.:
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Interesting thought of the week:

pruritus and prurient have the same root

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Is it just me, or is a table of contents that goes:

Introduction                 1
[Title of book]              9
Reference Works       636

totally pointless?
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I wasn't able to appreciate things like this until I'd been an adult for a while.
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When I spoke to my mother yesterday, she was kind of all worked up about some stuff she'd heard on the radio about stuff going on in Haiti.  Not everyone doing stuff there and collecting money and managing money for relief efforts is doing it the best way. My mother knows this because of someone else's investigative journalism, but she is angry and lets loose about it as if she were the only one aware. I think it is good to be aware, but she is a 64-year-old woman in the US with no skills related to this and no disposable income. The anger is not productive, and it is frustrating to be on other end of the phone while she's going on tirades about how people are Wrong.

I didn't say that. Instead - I had an idea! I shared this quote (which I got from the [ profile] helpers community info) with her:
"When I was a child and would see scary things on the news, my mother would say to me, 'Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.'" -- Mister Rogers

And then I mentioned and described some very awesome individuals I've heard about who have gone to do relief work on their own, in a helpful way. And then I told her about how I see other good things when I look for them.  And I think it kind of worked.  The conversation went relatively well. Good things don't negate the bad things, but it gives me hope, and when I can't help with something myself, either physically or financially, I think it's better to feel hopeful, at least, so I can go about the things I can and need to do in non-angry, non-upset frame of mind.
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I've spent a lot of my life waiting for problems to go away and for things to get easier, or at least thinking that as soon as I successfully took care of some particular problem, everything would be easy for a bit.

I think I'm realizing that this doesn't happen.  There's always (or almost always) something, unless you're two. And even when you're two, I bet something like "hey that kid grabbed my toy!" feels earthshattering. Besides, I remember having what I thought were Big Concerns even when I was a kid--like the time my seven-year-old self was *convinced* for months that I had cancer in my gut (I felt the lump!) because I had a spoonful of Sweet n Low, and I was afraid to tell my mother because, after all, she had cautioned me against eating the stuff: NO DON'T DO THAT THAT STUFF CAUSES CANCER.

I'm going to choose to believe that it does get easier - not because shit stops happening, but because we can get better at dealing with shit. 

New plan: get better at dealing with shit. Calmly and effectively. 

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I don't believe in horoscopes, but this is plain old good advice.

GEMINI (May 21-June 20): How well have you been attending to 2010’s major themes, Gemini? Since we’re midway through the year, let’s do a check-in. I hope that by now you are at least fifteen-percent sturdier, stronger and braver than you’ve ever been in your entire life, and at least twenty-percent better organized and disciplined. I hope that you have outgrown one of your amateur approaches and claimed a new professional privilege.

Now write the following questions on a slip of paper that you will leave taped to your mirror for the next six months. “1. How can I get closer to making my job and my vocation be the same thing? 2. What am I doing to become an even more robust and confident version of myself?”

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God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.

--Reinhold Niebuhr

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I grew up thinking that there would be some magical date in the future in which everything would be better.  (Specifically, I thought about the Messiah coming.)  I'm finding that even though I no longer believe in a messiah, I've retained this vague notion of "that time in the future when everything will be awesome for everyone except maybe those people who kick puppies."  I can work toward making everything awesome for everyone, but it's never going to happen on the level that I grew up imagining. I need to channel that dissonance into giving back to the world more.
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Colcannon made with kale and smashed up red potatoes (skins left on) is so very pretty.  And it has a more interesting flavor if you make it with yogurt instead of milk, but at that point it's probably not really colcannon anymore.  Supposedly kale is a winter crop, but the farmers market here still has plenty of it and it tastes OK.
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I think the first use of this pillow is brilliant (and have actually been looking for something like this), but they're really scraping bottom with some of those other uses:

or even better:

I *so* want to try this.  I love sleeping on my stomach but I hate turning my neck because it makes me tense my body up, and I've dreamed about products like this.
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Defenders of Proposition 8 produced no evidence to back up their claim that marriage between same-sex couples would hurt heterosexual marriage. “I don’t know. I don’t know,” the defense attorney, Charles Cooper, said when asked for an explanation by the judge at a pretrial hearing.

The defense called only two witnesses. The first, Kenneth Miller, a professor at Claremont McKenna College, argued that gay people are a powerful political force, which was meant to support the claim that there is no need for enhanced judicial protection. He ended up admitting that gay men and lesbians suffer discrimination.

The other witness, David Blankenhorn, the president of the Institute for American Values, argued that marriage is being weakened by rising divorce rates and more unmarried people having children, but he could not convincingly explain what the genders of married couples had to do with that.

Upon questioning, he acknowledged that marriage is a “public good” that would benefit same-sex couples and their children, and that to allow same-sex marriage “would be a victory for the worthy ideas of tolerance and inclusion.” The net result was to reinforce the sense that Proposition 8 was driven by animus rather than any evidence of concrete harm to heterosexual marriages or society at large.

This from THE DEFENSE of Prop 8. The people who are supposed to be saying "yeah, keep this law that says no same-sex marriage in CA."


Jun. 11th, 2010 10:32 am
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"Look, we're basically on earth to shit and fuck. So unless your job's to help people shit or fuck, it's not that important, so relax."


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